VQC #79: When is it time to let go of your Dream?

Black Enterprise (June, 2010)

How do you know when it’s time to let go or give up on a dream or vision that you have been pursuing?

How do you know when something is not meant for you? A very successful woman that I know asked me this the other day and I thought it was a great question.  This was also a huge example of synchronicity because  journalist Tamara E. Holmes had just asked me the same question for an article she was writing for Black Enterprise Magazine. I had never had a coaching client ask me this question and I have never had to ask myself this in the course of pursuing my Visions of Success.  I have always just relied on my instinct to tell me when something is right or wrong for me, but apparently this answer does not always come so easily for some folks. I think only you know when to let go or keep pressing on to pursue your goals.

I am curious what your answer is to this question.   Check out the Black Enterprise article “Letting Go” (June, 2010), if you want to read one woman’s account of what she did and hear some advise from the experts.

Feel free to drop me a line with your response to the article and the question…

When is it time to let go of your dream?

P.S. To add your voice to the book I’m writing on women living their visions please take The Vision Quest Survey!

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VQC #78: The End of Eden

Falls at the Hot Springs

I am back from my Costa Rican birthday adventure and still absorbing it all.  WOW! What a trip it was.  We managed to avoid earthquakes, volcanic eruptions and landslides to have an awesome time.  If you are a lover of nature as I am, Costa Rica  is a dream come true.  I saw more new plants and animals and gorgeous vistas than I can record.  If you wish to see some of my photos of the amazing flora and fauna please visit Vision Quest Retreats.

On our last day we awoke to brilliant sunshine on the adjacent mountainside. After a day of pouring rain this was a very welcome sight.  We decided to get up early and try to see the Poas Volcano which is a crater like stratovolcano near the Peace Lodge where we were staying. After an amazingly good breakfast of gallo pinto, scrambled eggs, fried plantain, fried cheese and coffee, we set off.  The drive up to the volcano was about 40 mins.  It was a misty day as we made out way up the winding hilly roads past dairy and strawberry farms. The hilly landscape was very wet and green as we made our way up into the cloud forest. Once to the national park we walked up a road to see the volcano but the clouds had returned and we could see nothing.  Our guide pointed out where you could barely make out the edge of the crater lake through the fog, but as we waited for it to clear more it never did.  I was disappointed but at least we tried.

Black-Handed Spider Monkey

Once back at the Peace Lodge I went to say good bye to my animal friends who live there.  This was my biggest treat of the day because when I went to the monkey enclosure two of the Black-Handed Spider Monkeys, Mancha and Esperanza, came over to greet me.  They had grown accustomed to me in the past three days so they came over to the cage wall and Mancha stuck her hand out for me to take it.  It was as if she knew I had come to say goodbye.  Then she snaked her long tail out toward me so I put my finger out and she wrapped her strong tail around my finger and pulled it closer.  I continued to enjoy this little encounter and to play with her little hands for a while before saying my final adios to head into the butterfly house.

Once there I just stood and watched the enormous iridescent Blue Morhpos dance about in the air and chase each other around.  Like on my first day there was no one in the place so I was able to enjoy the peace and beauty in total silence. I stood for a long while memorizing the scene before my eyes very aware that this was a memory that I would keep with me forever and pull out at a later date…one of those special times that you tuck away for later in life when you are old and looking back.

Before leaving the Peace Lodge

I ended my good byes in the aviary then made my way to the room to finish packing and head to the lobby where a driver was to take us to the airport in San Jose.  I had a few moments in the room to myself to just look around and take it in, which I did…very grateful for this magical week in Costa Rica to celebrate 40 yrs on this awesome planet.

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VQC #77: Misty Musings

a rainy day at the Peace Lodge

We were supposed to trek to see the Poas volcano today but it rained almost the entire day! It began after breakfast and kept going and going and the wind was howling about the place.  At first it was cozy to sit inside by the fire but after a while I wanted to get out.  I tried taking a nap and managed a brief one before suiting up to head out into what had now turned into heavy mist.

It was actually quite pleasant and cool so I wore my sweater and jeans and my awesome Keen trekking shoes. I stopped in the aviary at the bottom of the hill and was able to see some species of birds that I did not see yesterday. I also got to watch them feed the hawks a mice and  a rat…yuck!

From here I did a pass through the butterfly house. As it was late in the day most of them had gone to sleep but I still got to see some very pretty species before checking on the couple of two-toed sloths who live there.  Those two NEVER move but stay huddled up together like two lovers who need nothing but each other.

After the butterflies I stopped by to see my monkey friends.  I love those guys.  One of them likes to come to the fence and show me his belly.  Today he did this whole approach retreat routine before snaking his long tail out of the fencing at me so I could touch his tail.  He curled it around my finger and I was in love.  He must have known what he was doing because after that when he reached this same tail out to try and grab some leaves I was all too happy to help by plucking them for him and passing the treats through the fence.  Yes I am a sucker.

Blue-sided Leaf Frog

After parting from my new best friend I was off into the forest to visit the waterfalls again.  It was lovely misty and cool in there today but the waterfalls, rather than being white, where all brown from all the rain. I had a nice walk down into the tropical woods then took the bus back up the hill to the hotel.

Later, the frogs, the hummingbirds again and finally dinner and to the room where I tried out the hot tub on the balcony.  It was nice to soak in the hot water after the cold rainy day and to feel the fresh air around me.  I had gotten in bed but could not sleep so decided to write what may be my last post from this place.

blogging by the fire

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VQC #76: White Magic Waterfalls

Blue Morpho (Morpho Peleides)

Today was my 40th birthday and I am happy to say it was a magical day! I am at the Peace Lodge in Varablanca, Costa Rica and they have all sorts of animal habitats on the grounds here. When I woke up this morning the first place that I went was to visit the monkeys but when I saw that I was right next to the butterfly house I had to go in there.  It was early and I was blissfully alone and left to wonder around by myself.  All manner of butterflies dotted the air and lighted on the plants filling this tropical setting.  Of course my favorite butterflies, the blue morphos were there.  Several of them chased each other around the place, their iridescent blue wings flashing in the sunlight. I made an interesting discovery.  I found a butterfly on the ground that had expired so I had the chance to examine this perfect specimen up close.  I looked at the underside of her wings, the dull brown side, but what I found was that this side was really not dull at all.  It might have lacked the same iridescent color but the intricate pattern was one I could easily get lost in.  There was so much more going on, on this underside than I would have at first imagined.  I was delighted to have the chance to take this in.

Green-crowned Brilliant Hummingbird

There were two other highlights to my magical birthday.  I visited the hummingbird garden and had a chance to feed the hummingbirds.  You are given feeders filled with nectar to hold and the little jeweled creatures come down and light on the feeders and on your fingers while they poke their beaks and their even longer tongues into the sweet juice while drinking very rapidly.  Hummingbirds dart and buzz all over the place and you get to see all their gorgeous colors, emeralds and amethysts, and to admire their pretty little eyes.

The last highlight of my day was the trek through the La Paz Waterfall Gardens, the property on which the Peace Lodge is situated.  A path leads you deep into the forest where you get to see three spectacular waterfalls.  The scenery is amazingly lush and wet green.  I made the trip into a photographic safari and took lots of pictures of amazing insects that I had not seen before.

Magia Blanca Waterfall, Costa Rica

The rest of the day was wonderful as well but this blog is not long enough to capture it all.  I am going off to sleep now very grateful to have some amazing adventures and to be witness to the amazing power of mother nature.

If you wish to see the photos of the amazing flora and fauna here in Costa Rica please check out Vision Quest Retreats.

As always much continued success and well-being on your journey!

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VQC #75: Heading to San Jose

White-Faced Coati

Just a quick entry before leaving the Arenal region and the volcano for the 3 hr drive to the Peace Lodge in the La Paz Water Fall Garden.  The remaining days of the journey will be spent here.  Not sure what we will find but I definitely hope to see more animals and especially the Blue Morpho (one of my special animals)

This morning I had a terrific breakfast, the casado, which is poached eggs, black beans and rice, fried plantain, corn tortillas, agua dulce (hot sugar cane water) and some delicious Costa Rican coffee. Also at breakfast we saw the White-Faced Coati, and a yellow Fly-Catcher.

I took a ton of pictures around the hotel then went to the hot springs for one last good soak where I was massaged by the hot rushing water fall.

Heading for the shower now then to dress and to catch the shuttle to San Jose.

If I can connect there I will.  Much continued success and well-being,

Nicole

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VQC #74: The River to Don Pedro’s Farm

In Book II of The Adventures of Isabelle the princess goes on a journey across the sea. At one point she finds herself on the banks of a magic river at night where she meets a very old man, a guide on the river. What happens after this I can not say but I think I may have found my river today. We took a safari rafting tour down the River Blanca. For about 2 hrs we floated and paddled lazily down this very calm river surrounded by lush green forest and lulled by the sound of the gentle water. I added many animals and plants to my sight list to include, crocodiles, iguanas, monkeys and several species of birds.  My favorite bird remains a small brilliant red and black bird named Cherisse’s Tanager.

After about 1.5 hrs we made a stop at a farm, La Rivera,  for a little snack, to see the farm and to meet the owner, a 98 year old man named Don Pedro.  As we lighted from the boat onto the bank I found it ironic that as our guide Pablo offered his hand he said “Princess.”  The story line for Isabelle is never really far from my mind but today it was very much on my mind as I realized that this journey down the river held some clues for me as to the direction of her story. After depositing our life jackets on the rail we ascended the wooden steps to the top of the hill then followed a wooden walkway to a wooden open air structure where we were to take our snack.  We sat at one of the little wooden tables as Pablo went over to have a word with Don Pedro who was already having an audience with some men who looked like his workers. Eventually we were beckoned over to meet the man.  He bade us sit down after introductions and began speaking to us in Spanish with Pablo translating occasionally.  It was very strange because although I understood very little of what he said I noticed his spirit.  I felt very peaceful in that little hot place sitting on a very broken down chair covered in a mat.  Every now and then Don Pedro would direct a comment my way really looking into my eyes.  I decided to just pay attention. It was like visiting an older and precious relative who you know must be cherished for the life they have lived, all they have seen and all that they know.  It was a truly special and totally unexpected experience.

Don Pedro & Pablo (our guide)

We did take a little meal there of hot coffee, cheese (made on the farm), fried plantain and yucca bread, which I have never had and really enjoyed.  Pablo showed us how they used to eat it as kids, the cheese with the plantain.  I had never had that either and it was delicious. As we ate and sipped our coffee Don Pedro’s daughter prattled on to Pablo. He explained to her that we were mother and daughter and this seemed to delight her. When we left she broke off a Hibiscus flower and gave one to each of us.

We left with many good byes and good wishes. As I walked away down the wooden path then back to the boat I knew that something very special had just occurred and felt very grateful for the experience.

The rest of the trip was easy if a bit hot as we were no longer covered by the trees and the wind had all but died away. 

I am taking advantage of this rain to record today’s adventure.  Tomorrow we move closer to San Jose to a different hotel. Don’t know quite what to expect but I will, as always, keep you posted.

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VQC #73: The Garden of Eden…at night

The Scene at Night, Tabacon Hot Springs

As I have never been to Costa Rica I did not really know what to expect.  As a nature lover I fully expected to enjoy myself.  What I was not prepared for is the power of the rain forest and being so near an active volcano.  I’m not sure if it’s fair to call this the jungle but I like the smell and feel of that word a bit better than rain forest.

There is an amazing paradise here called the Tabacon Grand Spa which is built around some hot springs. This water, which is full of minerals, is heated by the volcano before it rushes down the mountain to this collection of pools surrounded by lush tropical vegetation. People just come here to walk through the gardens and soak in the pools.  It feels like a living Gauguin painting, with people lolling on the lawns and sitting around the pools. Brightly colored plants and lizards accent the green backdrop.

Lat evening I had the consummate pleasure of having a massage in one of the spa’s little bungalows tucked away in the tropical garden. The spa itself is a beautifully designed and laid out space, with a pool in the middle fed by the hot springs.  It was just nice to be unplugged and have no agenda except to just BE there. 

By the time my spa time was over it was dark out so I decided to explore the gardens and the baths at night.  It was a whole different world from in the day. The “jungle” was alive with sound and movement. Toads hopped along the path, people moved languidly from one pool to the next.  A small group of young people sat on the little lawn from which you can see the volcano.  I went and stood there for a while hoping to catch a glimpse of the red lava flows.  I did not see this but I did get to stand among the trees and watch the fireflies twinkle around me. After this I walked around the paths just enjoying the sultry atmosphere around me, steam occasionally wafting over me and fogging up my glasses.  I stood and watched some bathers under the water falls for a bit before heading down the hill along the little paths and crossing the bridges before coming to the bottom.

This place is really so wild that I find it hard to describe.  Right now I am sitting in the room listening to the roll of thunder and watching the rain pour down outside.

I can definitely envision bringing a Vision Quest Retreat here.  If you have interest drop me a line and join my mailing list.

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VQC #72: The Foot of the Volcano

Arenal Volcano, Costa Rica

I have gone away on the eve of my 40th Birthday for some adventure and energy gathering. Arrived in Costa Rica on the 20th and have been pretty much non stop since then.

The first day we hiked in the Arenal National Park to see the volcano and the Arenal lake.  About a two mile journey to the top to get a view of the most active volcano in the country.  It was a truly awesome sight to see the smoke rising from the peak and to watch hot boulders hurtle down the hill. There is something magic about a semi hollow mountain that houses a sleeping dragon.

That same afternoon I did the sky tram and zip lines.  A gondola takes you about 2000 ft off the ground above much of the rain forest canopy.  I can not really adequately describe the feeling of being amidst so much lush greenery.  I had never done a zip line before and was very excited. The first long run takes you out over a huge ravine and you go about 80 miles/hr.  I felt like I was flying between the mountains the wind rushing past my ears.  I could look down into the valley below and at other times out over the lake.  There were about 8 zip lines in all that helped you traverse down the mountain.  I highly recommend this.

Today was the rain forest trek on the hanging bridges.  This hike takes you on the forest floor and then eventually up the mountain and across several suspension bridges that allow you to walk among the tree tops. Our guide pointed out some very cool birds, poisonous frogs, plants, insects and yes…I did see MONKEYS!  Mantled Howler Monkeys to be more precise…noisy black and gold monkeys that make the jungle sound like the jungle.  Then the rain started.  I donned my camouflage rain poncho and kept trekking through the downpour as the monkeys howled louder and louder.  It was surreal…wild and fantastic.

(This last installment does not bring me to the end of the day…there will be more but I needed to do this quick travelogue.)

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VQC #71: Gathering Energy

Rebirth of the Time of Peace (Cutts)

After what seems like a whirlwind of activity over the past few months things have quieted down, but I feel like this is just the quiet before the storm. This often happens when it is time for me to rest up before the next big push. So what is the next big push?  Actually the signs have been pretty clear as to the direction in which I need to head now. I don’t want to be too specific on this forum but let’s just say the concentration is heading toward Book II in the Adventures of Isabelle and toward the retreats.

There are other changes a foot as well on a deeper or higher plane, depending how you look at it. I am heading into a birthday which is always a time full of magic and a lot of synchronicity…wild stuff usually happens around this time. This birthday is a very important one because many things are about to change. Again I don’t want to be too specific but let’s just say I am being moved to a different level in my life.

Now the really good news…I will be spending this birthday on an adventure in nature…which is my favorite thing in the world. It is going to be a time to reflect and generally just have fun.  I will as always keep you posted.

Hey if you are a woman and want to participate in the Vision Quest Project around the book I’m writing please complete the Vision Quest Survey!

Much continued success & well-being,

Nicole

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VQC #70 Living My Life Like it’s Golden

Discussing Isabelle on You Tube

Sitting in my kitchen watching the rain pour down. Finally coming to rest after much activity. All good…all in the service of living my Vision, just didn’t leave much time for capturing it in this blog…didn’t leave much time for reflection.

Between the debut of The Adventures of Isabelle in Many Paths, Many Feet and the Women’s Dream to Design to Destiny Conference I have not had much time to catch my breath…then there was other work too.

I am really grateful for all of it but also happy to have this little bit of time to take stock before I set off on my next adventure.  I am turning my sites to resuming work on the non-fiction book about women living their visions and on Book II of the Adventures of Isabelle.

As always inviting you to share your stories of living your visions and to take the Vision Quest Survey where I am collecting stories and data for the non-fiction book on women living their visions. (I need about 500 more responses)

What are you working on and how are you living your life?

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